Are you there Dad?
It's me Kim…
Happy Fathers Day 

I can still remember you … the true you…

Before the voices

I remember being Daddy's little girl following you around everywhere whether it was fixing the car, doing yard work or even grocery shopping.

It didn't matter as long as I was with you … Before the voices

I remember what it was like when you would look at me and your eyes sparkled with love and joy… Before the voices.

I had you wrapped around my little finger "Daddy's Little Girl…Before the voices.

You made me feel safe & secure…Before the voices.

You empowered me and led me to believe I could be anything…Before the voices.

I remember being in a happy, loving family…Before the voices

To you Dad on this Father's Day I am grateful for you, the time we had together, the bond we had and the man you were…Before the voices

When Father's day isn't a Hallmark kind of day…

I gained a lot growing up with a paranoid schizophrenic Dad most importantly I learned true forgiveness and gratitude.

Father's day is bittersweet for me.
It's been a little over a year now since my Mom has passed I didn't get a call from my dad to comfort me or even check in to see how I was.
I forgive him for that because I understand his reality is not the same as mine.

My Mom
One of the last pictures taken of my mom, myself and 3 of our kids.

My sole surviving parent is now my Dad with whom I do not have a relationship with, mostly for my own well being.
I am sharing this with you in hopes that if you find yourself in a relationship with your Dad that is strained or wounded that you too can find forgiveness in your heart as well for you and your well being.

Life as a child with a paranoid schizophrenic Dad was well…crazy. 
We didn't know when my Dad was going to hear voices it could happen at any given moment. Even scarier was what the voices would tell him to do.

Before the voices I was Daddy's little girl after the voices my dad believed I was evil because the voices told him I was.

Little did I know at the time how much courage that would give me when my abilities began to open up. When you're a little girl being told you are evil by your dad it kind of takes the sting out of anyone else trying to tell you that as a grown adult because you are a Medium!

When my abilities opened up I panicked thinking that I was going to turn out like my Dad (even though I was adopted at birth and not his biological daughter).
The difference between the voices I hear is that I get validation on the information and it's never harmful information.

I have done a lot of forgiveness work on my past with my Dad. 
Something I found very helpful for me was simply using this sentence and filling in the blanks…

___________  I forgive you for _________. Thank you for teaching me _____________.

I have also done a lot of work with my inner child, little Kim. I must admit I put that off for a long time because frankly I thought it was pretty corny(Can you say Ego?). Boy was that a mistake! My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner! 

Working on my inner child released a lot of fear and insecurity!

Please remember forgiveness is not for the person we are forgiving it is for us the ones doing the forgiving.
Resentment, anger, fear, hate those are all lower vibrations that will do real damage to your physical & emotional body!
Begin the forgiveness work now and do it for you and those who love you.

When we restrain from forgiveness we allow someone else to hold a pretty powerful energy over us.
Empower yourself and forgive!

I have forgiven my Dad and I am grateful for all he and his illness taught me. I believe we can forgive someone and even love them without having to have a daily relationship with them. We can leave that door open for the future possibility.

Hubby with our grandson
My husband with our grandson. Yep he's a pretty Awesome Papa too!

Father's Day is also a very happy day for me as well because I am married to the love of my life who is an amazing Dad to our 5 children! 
We both had a rough go of it with our dad's however we can be grateful for that because it allowed us to become very clear about the parents we strive to be for our children. 

I hope this Father's day finds you with a heart full of Love and Gratitude!

Find, Be & Stay True to You,
Kim

 

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The sound of a panicked mom's voice on the other end of the phone is becoming more and more common placed for me lately. Here are these amazing mom's who have supported and helped their babies grow up healthy, happy well educated and safe however now they find themselves facing something with their child that's not in many parenting books!!!

What's a Mom to do? 
 

Had this happened to me before I grew into my own abilities I would have most likely panicked!

If your child has a learning disability you get help and support from the child's school. If your child has a medical condition you go to the doctor.

Who do you go to when your child is predicting things before they happen? When your child begins to say things out loud that you were thinking in your head but not saying out loud? When your child begins to tell you about a conversation with a deceased relative whom they never met? and describes them perfectly having never seen them or a picture of them!

What if this scares the child how do you protect them from something you can't even see, hear or feel?

Unfortunately one of the first things that's told to many children who are experiencing these things is to not tell anyone. Understandingly so because as the adult we know that the world can be unkind to those who appear "different than the norm". I totally get it's a fine line to walk with your child and as parents we want to protect our children from unkind words from others. Obviously how we speak to a 5 year old is going to be different than how we would speak to a 10 year old or a teen ager. 

Choose your words carefully because what you say to them early on when they open up to you about this are words they will remember for a LONG LONG time. It's so key for them to first know YOU accept them as they are. You love and accept ALL of their being. They need to know you will always be their "Safe Place" with no judgement. Keep in mind it is you that you want them to talk too if you want them to open up to you in the future these early conversations are critical.

Practice the art of not looking shocked!! These kids need calmness and grounding energy to connect to. Remember when they were crying babies and when you cradled them in your arms how they began to connect to your calming energy soon after some rocking,singing & kisses they were calm babies once again. They will need that same kind of energy from you now regardless of their age.

Finding a Mentor for your child.

If you yourself are not a Psychic or a Medium how do you find someone to help your child learn how to deal with their abilities?

Honestly it's not easy!

~Do your research just like you would if your child needed a doctor who was a specialist in the area needed. If you seek out help from a psychic or medium interview them first before jumping into a program with them.

~Then check your own mommy intuition.

~Does this feel like the right person to work with your child? Are they willing to make you a constant part of the coaching (you will want to know what is going on during any mentoring or

teachings). 

~Will this person honor your family's beliefs and consult you if a conflict with your beliefs or faith comes up?

~Do they have past clients you can talk with?

 

Once you have found someone to work with your child stay in the loop with your child and the mentor. Developing and expanding on Psychic / Medium abilities is not a step by step program where everyone develops the exact same way. It is often a learn as you grow type situation. Early on it can be very overwhelming and exhausting. Before gaining control your child may become quite tired at times. It's key to ensure they get plenty of rest and eat a healthy diet along with drinking plenty of water. 

Thankfully society is becoming more and more accepting of Psychic Mediums. Personally I believe this will continue to be the case as more ethical and authentic Psychic Mediums come out of their Psychic Closets.

Above all else give your child all the unconditional love they so need from you. Be that Safe Place for them.

Stay True to You

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