Changes

by Kim St.Andre

“Kim the only thing consistent is change” I can still hear the voice of one of my first mentors in my head saying these words to me. I was 22 at the time and the youngest manager that company had ever hired. I like consistency. I like being prepared. Truly grasping those words was hard for me. Do we ever really like change? To be honest, you could compare me to a two year old when it comes to change. Have you ever tried taking a favorite security blanket from a two year old? Try it. You will soon discover you will do anything in your power to get it back to that screaming two year old! Security Blanket Yep, that’s right; I can throw a temper tantrum with the best of the two year olds! Let’s face it change is uncomfortable. Most of us like being comfy with our “security blankets.” Change means I am going to have to get comfortable with something new. Honestly getting comfortable with something new is just really UNCOMFORTABLE. Who wants that? For most of us adults that “security blanket” is “our story.” You know that story you tell people about you. The one that explains why you are the way you are. Talk about not liking change: Try to get someone who has had the same story for years to even consider changing it. Try it on yourself. First become aware of your story. What's your story Notice what adjectives would describe the main character in your story (that’s you by the way). Do you like being described that way? If so stop here, you’re good to go 😀 YAY YOU! If you don’t like the adjectives that describe the main character pick some that represent the new story you desire. Begin using them when talking about yourself, both out loud and in the self talk that goes on inside your head. Begin to change your story. Go to your support team, best friend, spouse, coach, mentor, etc… ask for their help with this. Surround yourself with people who won’t allow you to fall back on your old story. These are going to be the people that can calm that 2 year old temper throwing child inside of you. Soon you will see good changes coming your way that now align with you. Then, before you know it, you will begin to look forward to the uncomfortable because you will know it means good changes are on their way. That temper tantrum throwing 2-year old will get quieter and you’ll one day realize you don’t even know where the security blanket went …and that’s ok.

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